Dating versus biblical courtship

As far as I understand the Bible dating is not scriptural. So you decide that you will go out with some "guy" for a while and see if you like him (kick his tires, if you will). This kind of "relationship" is based on trial and error. Things he buys you (is he spending his money foolishly or wisely), places he takes you to (would you want the Lord to find you there), things he says to you (sometimes what he is not saying is more important than what he is saying), or how he touches you (we will get to this in a moment). What will happen when he takes you to through the drive-through at the golden arches instead of that restaurant with the linen napkins that you went to on your first date, or he doesn't say the things he used to or says the wrong thing because you are experiencing PMS? If you do, then you are the one who is insensitive. Ask yourself where you want your relationship to go. Will you be able to stop there or will you go farther than you planned and have to live with guilt feelings and regrets? For the most part the world forces us to accept beautiful people and reject ugly, homely or plain-looking people. Too often relationships are based on someone's looks.There is nowhere in the Old Testament where men and women dated before marriage. If you find him "sea-worthy" then you will continue to see him. Not very wise when seeking a marriage partner, wouldn't you agree? A woman's emotions are a virtual roller-coaster ride. A man can talk a woman into doing things she normally wouldn't think of doing especially when a woman's emotions are in control of her thought processes. If he is "drop-dead gorgeous" (tall, dark and handsome) then you are interested in going out with him.ritual that has crept into the temple of God through the cracks we’ve ignored and the truth we’ve denied.

Although the specifics on how each family chooses to direct their child in this area may vary, the goal is the same.Usually, the man offers to take the woman out for dinner and a movie. Usually, his ultimate goal is a passionate night of kissing.If he is a gentleman, he won’t seek sex on the first night.A man will court a particular woman because he believes it is possible that he could marry her, and the courtship is the process of discerning whether that belief is correct.To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage. Selfishness is not what drives a Biblical marriage, and therefore should not be what drives a Biblical courtship.